Intimate relationships require work. Like cars, romantic relationships require regular maintenance to keep them in good shape. If you have a problem and get it repaired, you avoid future complications over time. We can often do a lot of the basic maintenance ourselves, but there can be times, we may need to rely on a professional to assess the problem and help us out. When we don’t resolve issues early in relationships, they can end up building up like icebergs later; further along when conflicts arise, they may seem like a little thing but may actually be connected to a much bigger issue beneath the surface.
Couples work helps two people in a romantic relationship or navigating co-parenting to gain insight into their relationship, explore what works and what does not, and learn tools to effectively communicate, resolve conflict, and improve relationship satisfaction. All too often, people misperceive intentions and actions and it leaves room for misunderstandings, resentments and hurt feelings.
Promoting the use of playfulness, patience, acceptance, curiosity, empathy and repair skills, your therapist will teach you the art of how to create meaningful and emotionally safe connections. The most essential skill starts with relearning how to listen. In my experience, when we seek to understand, rather than preparing to respond, we begin to formulate a new way of being present for one another. Much of what is taught may seem simple, but people are complex. Whether you are in a new relationship, one that has a long history or one that feels like it is nearing the end, you owe it to yourselves to try couples’ counseling. Contact me today.